A very wise person in my life recently wrote a post challenging me to think about my “why”. What is your “why”? This can apply to literally everything in our lives and can be the driving force behind everything that we do.
I realize that while I know my why for this fashion blog you may not…
Anyone who has been following me for awhile has heard pieces of my story. If you haven’t and are curious you can read it here: My Story ~ Raw and Real.
My why is YOU! My heart goes out to any woman that is suffering and doesn’t even know “how” to begin the journey towards self love. It’s so hard but wherever you may be in this journey know that I am here for you! Every woman is unique and no story the same but we are definitely all in this together! We need each other. One thing I always knew, even in the midst of my pain was that I didn’t want anyone to ever feel the sorrow that I felt. This is why I am not hiding what I have been through. If I can help even one person, my vulnerability is worth it!
You may wonder what fashion has to do with any of this? Style was my personal stepping stone. It was the one thing in my life that had the power to make me feel better. To clarify, I am not talking about the rush in spending money and having new things AKA spending money foolishly. I am talking about finding an article of clothing that literally made me feel prettier when I wore it. An item that I could celebrate the body God gave me even when I felt imperfect. You see clothing brings me happiness and searching for my personal style has brought me joy! No, clothing does not have any eternal importance but it was the beginning of opening my eyes to the woman that God not only loves and cherishes right now but also wants me to become.
That’s what I want for you!
A woman’s quest to feel beautiful never really ends. I promise that if you can’t begin to love yourself exactly as you are right now you will never find peace. There will always be something you wish you could change about yourself. I know for most of you there’s probably a list of dislikes that immediately pop into your head. My advice…don’t even go there!
My breakthrough all began when I started to accept myself and the physical attributes that God gave me. I didn’t try to to hide them anymore but I chose to embrace who I was in every aspect. In result, I have allowed the passion that God has given me to start developing in my life. I don’t allow my fear of what others think dictate my life choices and I stopped wishing I could be someone else that I admired or (sad to say) was jealous of. I chose to work on me and to be the best possible version. Believe me, it’s a daily process and it all begins and ends in my mind. I had to break the daily negative cycle, replacing bad thoughts with good ones. My secret? I never dwell on negative thoughts towards myself. Ever. If a bad thought pops into my head, I immediately replace it with a good thought. You have to break the negative cycle!
Fashion to me is a very personal showcase on the outside of the person dwelling within. To some, you may never quite understand and that’s fair. There are passions in your life I will probably never understand. But what we can all understand is finding the passion that makes you feel alive and that you will fight for! Something that is so close to your heart that through the good and the bad, you know you will prevail! I know I can’t take away anyone’s pain. I was the only one that could change the way I felt about myself and YOU are the only one who can change the way you feel about yourself. I just want you to have hope and know that it IS possible. There is light at the end of the tunnel and I can almost guarantee you that in your search for purpose in your life, you will find yourself on a journey of self development, acceptance and love.